Being an older age female without a job is a difficult thing, nobody wants to employ me. What skills do I have? I don’t have a university education, I don’t have experience in anything particular, I don’t even know what job I want to do??? How does this happen…what happens next???
I keep applying and looking for jobs, does the jobs I apply for get more and more unskilled and lower paid. What does it say about a society that means you can’t get a decent paying job, does this mean I pay have to travel long distances, work nights. What about the younger generation, what kind of future will they have, how will they afford food, a car, accommodation. Is this how people end up on the streets, homeless. Life doesn’t discriminate.
We all look forward to summer, long lazy days, hot weather. In Australia it means Christmas and holidays. Holidays can be fun or stressful because family is not used to being together, they are usually at work, school, sport, doing things outside the family. Not involving the rest of the family.
“Our most upsetting relationships
offer us our greatest opportunities…
this does not mean we must learn to like the other person or to accept the way they behave. We need to evaluate and decern their behaviour instead of judging them as people. Nor does it mean that we must remain in a relationship with them. It only means that we are able to view them as beings worthy of our unconditional love, though their behaviour may be unappealing and objectionable…”
extract from In the Spirit of Business by Robert Roskind
How often do you take the time to notice life. What is going on with the planet. We breathe without thinking about it, we are on auto-pilot, we sleep, eat and drive to work without really taking the time to notice what is happening.
So stop and be involved in the moment, think about each breathe. Take the time to chew each mouthful, enjoy the flavors. Look at the flowers in the garden….notice life and take the time to enjoy it…every second is precious especially when you have children. They grow up so fast, it seems like yesterday my daughter was born and now she is 20 years old and living in Spain. I feel like I missed something…I did make the time, probably not enough…I was busy earning a living, moving house. Still trying to find myself and wake up.
We sit in groups chatting, what do we actually say, small talk, nothing too deep. Talking about the weather, what we did today, where we went, the show we just saw, the food on the table. Small talk can be mostly harmless or very interesting. Sometimes people feel the need to talk, share the most intimate things. As a therapist, I was shocked to hear the information coming from clients, why do they feel the need to share???
Is it about the need to connect?? We live singular lives, do we really know anyone at work, our neighbours?? Do we talk to our partners, children?
Generation X, have it differently, they openly hug each other, are generally more accepting of everyone…we can learn from them.
We need to connect, communicate, even if strangers talk to you, talk back, it might even help or make you feel great.
Why do I love going to festivals?
I meet lots of new and interesting people, people of all ages. When people go to the theatre or a festival, they are in a good mood, looking forward to seeing the show, chatting to friends and out for a good time. So the atmosphere is good all around. Happy people create more happy people.
Everyone likes to be happy, is a drug…a good drug…a state we would all like to be in all the time.
Do you love yourself??? A simple question and can you answer it??? Truthfully..be honest. I would have to say no, I’m disappointed in myself..what have I achieved…what have I done with myself.
So how do I, we overcome this feeling. Reading books, seeking counselors, talking about, run away and hide, eat too much, take up a dangerous sport, buy a fast car, work too hard, blame our parents, smoking and drinking too much. Sex can also be part of the obsession (we don’t have to have any feelings) don’t have to express ourselves.
Lots more things we do to stop feeling or facing up to ourselves.
Many kinds of therapy are available, meditation, yoga, many kinds of therapists, talking.
Surround yourself with loving and supportive friends that encourage you to explore your feelings. Eating well, stay active and being positive you can learn to love yourself. Only then can you truly love others, your family will benefit and you have a great legacy and strength to pass onto your children.
Disciplining a child is one of the most important, yet difficult, roles of being a parent. Effective discipline teaches a child to be self-disciplined later in life. It helps your child grow up to be happy and well-adjusted. Effective and positive discipline teaches and guides children, and helps them to feel safe, secure, and valued.
Discipline should be based on a child’s age, development and temperament. A parent’s goals by disciplining their child is to protect them from danger, to help them learn self-control and self-discipline and to develop a sense of responsibility.
Children should be respectful of their parent’s authority. If they’re disciplined harshly or unfairly, especially if it includes shouting or humiliating, will make it difficult if not impossible for a child to respect and trust their parent.
Parents must be consistent in their discipline. Discipline that’s not consistent is confusing to children, no matter how old they are. If parents are inconsistent in the way they discipline their children, children may find it hard to respect them. It can also indirectly encourage misbehaving and result in confusion and frustration for the child.
Discipline must also be fair. Parents must make sure that the punishment fits the crime and doesn’t punish too severely or is too lax. The consequences of their actions should be related to their behavior.
In order to discourage bad behavior, give your child choices about what to do. He will appreciate the chance to make decisions. Make sure rules that protect the safety, health and well-being of your child are given top priority. If your child is irritable, tired or upset, be understanding and try to help calm them. It’s important to keep in mind that bad behavior can sometimes be circumstantial.
Encourage positive behavior in your child by spending quality time alone with your child each day. Give your child hugs, cuddles or a gentle pat on the back, and give praise when praise is due. If your child is angry or sad, try to understand why. Teach your child good behavior by setting a good example and behaving properly and appropriately yourself.
